I had started writing this post a bit more than a month ago but, for some reason, I let it sit in my drafts page all this time. Now that the Internet is going a bit crazy over Essena O’Neill quitting social media, I decided to finally share my thoughts on the matter.
Keeping A Balance When It Comes To Social Media
Instagram is one of my favorite platforms. I love how it inspires me to be creative while snapping pictures of my daily life and how it makes me appreciate the little things. I can spend way too much time scrolling through my feed, but I have to admit doing that can either make me feel inspired or pressured to have a certain life.
It’s easy to look at your feed and feel like you’re not doing enough, your hair doesn’t look as great or wish that you could afford to travel to all those beautiful places. Why don’t I have it all together?
Instagram portrays a filtered life where people share their highlights.
When I publish a picture on Instagram there’s always 20+ similar photos on my camera roll that didn’t make the cut. And we tend to forget that we’re not the only ones. Plus, there’s a whole story behind the “perfect” photo and a more complex person behind the “perfect” feed.
I’m real on my Instagram but my life is not that “put together” as my feed makes it to be. I don’t share the moments when I’m feeling like crap or my hair is greasy. It’s easy to hide what we’re feeling or our insecurities behind a pretty feed.
We never now what someone is going through, we’re judging their lives and who they are based on what that person selected to share with the world. And it’s not like we’re being fake, we just choose to share one part of us online. The person we are at home probably isn’t the same at work or with friends, right?
Just Do You
To be honest, sometimes I can’t help myself from getting a bit too caught up with numbers, likes or followers. I can be a people pleaser sometimes. I want to do/say the right thing, I want to be “approved”. Not only when it comes to social media but offline life, as well.
And it’s just nice to know that people like the photos you take or the content you create. But the reality is that we – and I’m speaking to my self too, like always – don’t need to look for social approval or feel like we need others to validate how good we are. It should come from the inside.
If there’s one thing to take from all of this, is that success, fame or followers don’t mean happiness neither define who we are as a person. I believe that quitting social media is not the solution. It’s all about finding a balance. A balance between your online and offline life. Do take photos because it’s nice to look back into those memories, but it’s also important to put down your phone and enjoy the moment or the company your with – the importance of switching off.
Social media is not a bad thing itself.
Yes, like everything, it has it’s pros and cons but, in reality, it is what you make of it. Apart from all the comparison and numbers, it’s a great way to express yourself and connect with people from all over the world and I absolutely love that! I want to use social media, and blogging more specifically, to share my experiences, interests & issues and maybe inspire or help someone by knowing that they’re not alone.
I would love to hear your thoughts on the matter!