I think a lot of us – myself included – associate vulnerability with weakness. But when you think about it, being vulnerable is actually an act of bravery. It takes a lot more courage to deal with emotions than putting on a brave face and pretend everything’s okay.
For me, vulnerability is asking for help; writing this post, publishing & waiting for your response; waiting for someone to reply to my text message; admitting that loneliness scares me; stepping out of my comfort zone; talking about my emotions, insecurities & dreams; going out without make up on; admitting that I have no idea what I’m doing with my life; asking for a hug…
Opening up is tough for me so I tend to keep a lot to myself. I have trust issues and I rarely allow myself to be vulnerable with other people or even with myself.
Because dealing with emotions makes me feel uncomfortable. Like crying in front of someone. I can easily cry with laughter but I try to fight tears when I’m feeling sad. I just don’t like to show that part of me, it makes me feel weak.
Talking about my feelings is something I try to avoid. I tend to say ‘I’m okay’ 90% of the times people ask me how I’m feeling just because I don’t want to talk about why I am not okay. It’s easier to say ‘I’m okay’ than dealing with my emotions and trying to explain them to other people, when sometimes I can’t even comprehend them myself.Being vulnerable is not just opening up to people but to yourself. To be aware & accept your emotions & flaws. Click To Tweet
When I decided to write about this topic, a quick search on Youtube led me to this TED Talk by Brené Brown called The Power of Vulnerability which I totally recommend! She talks about how much she struggled with it and how important being vulnerable is to establish connections between people.
That reminded me of my time in university. Two of the best friends I made while I was at uni were girls that opened up to me about how they felt homesick. I was able to connect with them because I was going through the same. That brought us together and we grew closer as the year went by.
We need to learn how to embrace vulnerability and let people in. I’m sure there are people around us to help if we just open up to them. We should embrace our emotions, insecurities and fears, accept when we’re feeling down. Pretending that we’re okay when we’re not, will only make things worse. Let your emotions be, it’s okay.
To finish this post, I want to share something I came across at the beginning of the month on The Free Woman and that inspired me to write this post. It’s a beautifully written article about vulnerability and I will leave you with a paragraph that sums up way better than I did what being vulnerable is all about: