If you take a quick look at my Instagram feed, you will likely get the wrong idea about me and my life. Sometimes I even feel a bit of an impostor because my life is not as put together as my feed makes it look. I am not as organized or confident. For every picture that makes it to my feed, there are probably 25+ others that didn’t make the cut. And it’s not that I’m being fake. It’s just that I’m not sharing the whole story.
Falling into the comparison trap…
The thing is, I’ve been catching myself quite often lately scrolling through other people’s feeds feeling sorry about myself because a) I don’t travel as much, b) my bedroom is not as Pinterest worthy, and c) I’m not as photogenic. It’s easy to start comparing ourselves to others, especially when we’re feeling down.
But it’s not the whole story.
What I tend to forget is that Instagram doesn’t tell the whole story, it is only what the other person decides to share with us. Is where we put the best version of ourselves. Steve Furtick once said, “The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.” And that’s so true.
We don’t know the story behind that pretty selfie – maybe she went through a long journey until she felt confident enough to post it. We don’t know the story behind that photo of a dreamy beach – maybe she worked her butt off to be able to afford it. We don’t know the story behind that stunning bedroom – maybe it was tidied seconds ago just for the photo.
And then an idea struck me. You see all the pretty (?) pictures but what if I showed you the behind-the-scenes? I don’t want my feed to make you feel like I have this put together life. Because I really don’t. And I also thought it would be quite fun to share with you what didn’t make it to my feed or even blog, the bloopers, and a little secret.
The Behind-The-Scenes Of My Instagram Feed
The magic of editing.
Let’s start with the magic of editing. As you can tell, editing makes a big difference. While I try to take the “perfect” picture right from the camera, it always needs a bit of editing, in my opinion. After adding a filter and changing up a few settings, I feel like it looks better and ready to go online.
One in a million.
If you scroll down my feed, you won’t see many selfies. I do wish I felt comfortable in front of the camera but I’m just not fond of having my picture taken. Actually, more often than not, I prefer the candid pictures rather than the posed ones. I’m just not good at smiling and posing for the camera. And for every photo I do post, there are more than 25 that simply don’t make the cut – just like the one on the left with my weird look. Whether because my eyes are closed, my nose looks weird, or the lighting is off. Struggling with self-confidence and being a perfectionist makes the task even harder.
But lately, I’ve been trying to post a picture of myself more often because, as much as I love a good flat lay, I also enjoy getting to know the person behind the screen.
Meet tripod and remote, my two best friends.
So here’s the thing: I take pretty much all my photos, both for the blog and Instagram. It’s all usually pretty simple with the help of my tripod and remote but this was a bit different because I had to appear on the shot. To make things easier, I moved my duvet from the bed to the floor, otherwise, the tripod wouldn’t stay in place, pressed the button on the remote, hid it, and pretended that I wasn’t terrified of having my camera falling on my face. After many attempts, I got two pictures that I really love and am so proud of!
If you take a look at my Instagram, you might get the feeling that I have a beautiful, white bedroom. While I do have white walls and a couple of white furniture pieces, most of the furniture I own is in brown wood. Not the cool brown wood but one that is super polished and smooth, which is not my thing, but I’ve had it since I was a kid and will only invest in new pieces once I move out of my parent’s house.
Because I’m not the biggest fan of how it looks, mostly on pictures, I use a white cardboard and a white wood background to take my photos. Both have been super handy and make my photos look brighter and prettier. At least I think so.
The mess afterward.
If you’re a blogger, you’ll probably relate to this last one. After a blog photoshoot, my bedroom looks like a disaster with props everywhere – even worse if you’re photographing in bulk for the upcoming week. It really is the worst part, having to tidy up afterward. Another thing is that I’m guilty of tidying up just for a photo. The bit you see hides the mess around it. Is it just me?