I’m a huge thinker. My mind is always rushing with thoughts, worries and dreams. And I’ve realized that a lot of what goes through my head has been shared on this little blog lately. I’ve been trying to be more open about my feelings and writing always makes me feel better. So here’s another rant, everyone.
AM I ENOUGH?
I’ve been discussing this in my mind for a while. I’m currently in the stressful journey of finding my first real job after college and it has been hard. First, because I still don’t have a job. And second because I’m not even sure what I want to do or feel like I’m capable of doing. I feel like I can do a few things right but I’m not great at one particular thing, you know?
There have also been a lot of times where I thought I wasn’t going to be good enough at something and so I didn’t even try. Sometimes I also feel like I’m not brave enough, not kind enough, not pretty enough, not talkative enough, don’t have enough time, don’t have enough followers, my writing is not good enough and my opinion doesn’t matter enough. It’s a whole cycle of self-doubt.
And I’m sure I’m not the only one feeling this way sometimes. That’s one of the reasons why I share all these random thoughts, because there’s the possibility of helping someone, at least they know that they aren’t alone.
WHY DO WE FEEL LIKE WE ARE NOT ENOUGH?
Constant comparison of ourselves to other people and self pressure are the two main reasons why. We tend to compare the beginning of our journey to other people’ success and the behind-the-scenes to the perfectly-filtered feed of someone else’s life. There’s always someone doing more and being better than us. Personally, I’m a big perfectionist with high standards and a lack of self confidence, that makes it easier to feel like I’m not enough in certain situations.
HOW CAN WE OVERCOME THAT FEELING?
It’s okay to feel not enough sometimes. We are all human after all, we have insecurities and I think it’s impossible to feel confident all the time. But we can still do a few things to overcome that unpleasant feeling. We can try to stop comparing because the only thing we can keep comparing to is ourselves. How was I yesterday compared to how I am today? Why I am loosing time watching what other people are doing and comparing myself to them instead of focusing in my own life? Am I improving and getting closer to where I want to be?
If we don’t like something, we can try to change it. Personally, I would like to be either a photographer or a blog designer one day and instead of feeling sorry for myself because I think I’m not good enough for that, I can learn more and improve it. But there’s also those things I can’t change, so I need to learn to accept them as part of me.
So, if you’re reading this, just know that you ARE enough. You are important and you are worthy. Exactly as you are. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise, even yourself. Keep remembering that because it’s up to us to know our worth and be our first supporters!